How to focus on important things
Do you ever feel like you're living someone else's life?
Are you going through the motions without any real purpose or meaning?
If so, you're not alone.
Many people feel like this, and they don't know why. But the truth is, you can live a life that you want—one full of purpose, meaning, and happiness— But it all starts with focusing on the elements of life that matter to you.
By understanding and focusing on your goals, dreams, and passions, you'll be on your way to a life that is truly worth living.
Read on if you need help navigating this turbulent journey.
What does it mean to live the life you want to live?
"Know Thyself" - Socrates
When living the life you want, you must first know yourself.
You won't know what you're fighting for if you aren't aware of your core values.
If you don't understand your weaknesses and strengths, you won't have a good gauge of what you can achieve.
Simply put, you need a road map to your life goals created based on your mindset, values, and perspective.
Once you understand your "core self," you can start to live by that "compass" in the face of any challenges.
How do I find myself if I have no reference point?
If you are feeling stuck, lost, and need a guide, go find one.
You need to study the lives of people around you, individuals on the internet, and those in books— Decide what you want your life to look like; these characters are your reference points.
Message them, ask them questions, and find out what choices led to their success.
We all make choices (some better than others), and everything in life is a trade-off. Individuals who create unfulfilling lives make different choices than those who live vibrant ones.
Take a step back, reassess their situations, and find out why.
Doing so will help you hone in on the elements of life that matter most to you and help you take your first steps in that direction.
Why do we need to focus on the elements of life that matter?
Y.O.L.O. - Drake
This broad acronym cannot encompass the full extent of why you must focus on life's crucial elements.
Simply put, if you don't focus on what’s important, you will get lost in the hustle and bustle of all the things that don't matter.
... And that can have devastating consequences for you.
Why should you cause yourself that extra suffering?
If you suffer, you may as well suffer towards a goal and lifestyle you want.
Life will throw curve balls at you (regardless of your feelings).
If you focus on what truly matters, you will always have reference points that tie you to the earth and keep you grounded as hurricanes blow through your village.
But if you spend your day-to-day focusing on all the aspects of life that don't matter, those winds may blow your house down and uproot you (a few times) during your lifetime.
... And that will result in wasted resources.
Your life is a blessing, take responsibility over it.
What tips do you have for living a life that matters, even if it's not always easy?
Living a life that matters can be complicated, but it's worth it if you try.
Here are some tips to help you on your way:
- Reflect on your life, what you've accomplished so far, and where you would like it to go next. This can be done by journaling, talk therapy, or speaking to friends and family.
- Don't always justify your actions with your feelings. Your feelings may lead you astray.
- Remember that life is full of ups and downs, but the important thing is how you deal with those hurdles. Whether it's fighting for what you believe in, coming up with creative solutions, or simply telling yourself that you'll get through it— remember that you're not alone in this fight— countless others have walked this path before you.
What common distractions prevent us from living the life we want?
Work, family, and technology are the most common distractions that prevent us from living the life we want. Declutter your home and office so that you can focus better. You need to establish clear boundaries.
For example, place all your work materials in one place instead of scattering them around the house or office. Clear out any unnecessary items and make sure everything has a place.
In addition to decluttering your personal space, you may also consider limiting your exposure to technology during specific hours of the day. This will help reduce the number of hours you're distracted by external sources daily and declutter your mind.
How can I focus on living a life that matters to me?
Finding your life's purpose can be pretty daunting, but drawing inspiration from nature, spirituality, podcasts, books, and people can help you better understand what truly matters to you. You can begin building that baseline.
If you finished this piece and you are still skeptical, we will leave you with a quote to ponder:
"You know what you know, you know what you don't know, but you don't know what you don't know."